FUCKIN KOE KAKE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
声掛け＝approach
16 approaches over 4 hours.
got into the station at around 5:30pm and did like 2 or 3 approaches.
then i kept walking around pussying out on every girl
i was like THIS IS FUCKING RETARDED!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
yeah so basically i think i actually experienced my first culture shock of my whole life with my ~6 months of life in japan experience.
the thing is in america, if you approach a girl and she's not interested, usually she'll be cordial about it and tell you she has a boyfriend or that she's "not looking for a relationship" right now.
or say she doesn't straight up say it up front, she'll probably at least put up with you until you ask to exchange contacts and then reject it there, or give it to you and ghost.
even in california where i approached in a mall that was 80% asians, while i indeed got japanese-girl-style frozen out quite often there too, i usually just didn't bother with those and immediately bounced to the next girl because i knew that eventually some girl would actually have a conversation with me (also i had a much thicker skin due to the "potential energy" i had built up from just regularly approaching)
however, in japan, first of all it's not rude to straight up ignore someone that you don't want to talk to.
second of all, a good chunk of girls who are ignoring you are actually gameable and you can "crack" through them. just listen to this:
not going to translate the entire video but basically the chick straight up takes 5 minutes to say a single word, and up until that point based on the things he says her demeanor ranges from literally staring at her smartphone with her earbuds in to taking them out and oscillating in between, her reactions ramping up in a zigzag until she finally starts giggling and talking.
what's funny is the first thing out of her mouth was i'll pass you my line lol. she eventually followed him into a convenience store and i think after that they exchanged.
anyway, the
opposite
case also happens. it happened to me twice today actually. i got into a convo that lasted maybe like 3-5 minutes and then literally point blank in the middle of the conversation, the girl just puts up her hand and accelerates off. like she doesn't tell me a reason to leave or say "well it was nice meeting you!" just straight up bounces.
it's funny that ppl in the west think that japanese culture is probably indirect and everyone's always putting up a façade, but in reality americans put up their own façades in a different way. and as someone who was raised in america, i took american
aizuchi
for granted
anyway, even when i get girls who start smiling/giggling here and there and maybe talking a liiiiiiiil bit, it's kinda like i really gotta be putting on a show for the girl. (funnily enough in the youtube video i linked, at one point the guy was like "damn what is this it's like you're watching tv except im the tv")
i have to be putting on a show for the girl, and the show has to be good, and she might decide to straight up non-react for 5 minutes before finally saying a single word
or else she's gonna change the fucking channel lmao
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so i'm basically pussing out on talking to every single female in my vicinity and stalling because i...don't want to take responsibility for progressing the interaction?!?!??!?!??!
yeah, we have a lot of work to do here
regardless i had told myself i needed to approach 15 girls today, and doggone it, 15 girls were going to be approached
i decided to pull out a trick i used to do in america nightgame, where i would say "okay i need to approach 1 girl in this venue before i'm allowed to leave this place", and i was able to approach many girls this way.
so i did something similar. "go approach 1 girl in the station", "now go approach one girl at the crosswalk" ..etc etc. breaking it down into chunks like that helped me get it done, probably because the location change gave me a slight dopamine hit even if i had a bad interaction
on my 14th approach, i got the most bubbly girl i've run into here! i told her she looks like bubbles from powerpuff girls (lol!!!!) and she obviously had no idea what that is so i had fun explaining powerpuff girls to a japanese girl....................lmao
we chatted for maybe 3-5 minutes when i suggested we bounce to get some tea or something.
my friend is waiting for me tho
wait you said you were going home tf
yeah i live with my friend
ohhh like a sharehouse? lol that's fine let's just go for like 10 minutes
noooo i have to get up early tomorrow
yeah i wake up at 6:30am to go to the gym i aint trying to stay up late either
noooooo i really have to go
<<<<--- probably could have just kept the convo/approach going instead of the following
ok let's exchange lines and i'll take you on a date
uhhh...i can't. my
manager
reads all of my line messages
your what does what now???
ok so the thing is, in japan there are these places called "girls bars". basically guys with a lot of money but no girls go to these places and drink, but the hostesses all act cute and shower you in compliments so your inflated ego empties out your entire wallet on booze
however, these places usually have strict rules not allowing the hostesses to date or otherwise talk to boys. and they usually have "managers" that verify this.
sleeping with one of these girls is basically the forbidden fruit in japan. but guys are able to do it through instadate lays essentially
and one day...
ONE DAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
i will too!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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during my session i spotted a dude flagging down girls and so i talked to him. dude has been nampaing for like 8 years.
he says he does like 100-200 approaches a day!!!!!!!!!! ok now i know what i need to be aiming for lmao
my 16 in 4 hours is me pussing out of like 90% of the girls i actually want to approach tbh.
but i know i'll be able to get to that point again where i enjoy approaching just for the hell of it
colgate
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Fri 2021-08-27 02:13
I went back to the university around noon and the volume was really high. Immediately started approaching girls but yeah it was 0/17. The only one I really remember is some tall black dude saw me hitting on a girl and he was like "ayyy, you miss 100% of the shots you don't take!"
Even if you live in a small town, if you are determined enough you can find high volume places at certain times. I even rescheduled my weekly meetings with my boss so I could go out at noon.
On the upside, I have my second cold approach date on Sunday, so that'll be exciting (first time was in Nashville)
i did it before!!!
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meeting tomorrow evening with the nampa sensei i've been messaging on twitter!!! very excited!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
