My friend and I woke up late, and then he had some errands to do, and by the time we reached our daygame spot he crashed on the couch so I did a brief solo daygame session.
Also did a solo session at night since he had a plate over.
Daygame
Total:
0/10~15
I deliberately told myself not to go for the contact exchange at any point in my approaches today, as it's a way to expedite closing the interaction due to my innate desire to flee during an approach. Also focused on asking girls some questions, making sure I was speaking slowly, and not resorting to a bunch of babble.
I also need to work on coming off as more confident and less shy, but I think that will come in time as I learn how to embrace tension during my interactions and building some initial connections with girls during a daygame approach. I did notice that as the interaction progressed, I became more animated and charismatic, so now I just need to keep doing more approaches this way so the difference in my "frame" between the opener and the middle is reduced.
Basically, I was playing some variant of "nervous guy game".
Early in the session I got some hard deflections/girls running away, but towards the end it balanced out with more leveled out interactions.
Notable approaches
Girl jumps back when I merely say "hey" to her from behind and acts like it's a big deal. I said "ah, sorry to scare you haha" and it leveled out but declined with bf. I didn't like this interaction because it was my first approach and getting an exaggerated reaction that early psyched me out, and I just autopiloted to my soup approach style.
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I approach a girl whom one of us approached yesterday. I didn't realize it and she was like "I don't know why you guys are going around doing this" and walked off. I just reacted zero and stood still and watched her walk off for a few seconds.
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Since I still need to deregulate during the interaction, my best deregulation for now ended up being just talking about how I'm not from Austin and I'm trying to work on talking to girls. These are kind of meta-approaches, and I did probably 2 or 3 of these. Plus it kind of works on girls who already have a boyfriend because I can just practice interacting anyway instead of ejecting. I might do this with every girl who turns me down this way.
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Went through my questions and some interaction, didn't default to my "story" and told a girl we should go to dinner together since that's where she was heading. Declined, but I think this was my best approach and probably a good reference for future approaches. I still want to ask for instadates if possible, especially if I have good logistics.
Nightgame
Total:
0/4, 1 kiss
First approach was the same as my daygame strategy. Opened 2 girls who were eating at a bar. Told me she had a boyfriend but used this as an opportunity again to practice interaction, and I went through some questions on the girl, and then closed out after a few minutes.
Then I went to this super poppin' club but felt a lot of anxiety to approach anyone so I just sat down and played hawk mode (observing interactions, and seeing if anything unfolds). Saw yet another interaction go from kinda zero to close dancing, to making out, and more dancing, and then deeper making out, rinse and repeat. They sat next to me and I heard the guy trying to pull, but she declined with "I have to go home tonight", so he just kept dancing and making out with her. Eventually after an hour, I saw them leaving together. I don't know if that means he actually pulled but who knows. This is pretty surreal to me because all of my nightgame interactions are so fast because I haven't fully embraced tension, while this guy is really escalating/deescalating and stayed persistent and got a (potential) pull. It was pretty world class, but it seems like this is normal in Austin. This just further emphasizes my recent realization that I need to start embracing tension during interactions and seeing it as a GOOD thing, like I had to with rejection. I saw other similar interactions (though not the entire thing), and more people in Austin seem to be DTF as opposed to Nashville's Broadway based on my observation.
I ended up not doing any approaches here, but a gay dude screened me (kept touching my hand, trying to pull me into his circle, acting flirty, etc). So I ghosted him..................................... now I see why girls have so much fun ghosting dudes. Also decided I need to stop whining about hating the music and Shazam'd a bunch of the tunes that were being played. I'm gonna listen to them later and try to get into it, and I think this will help me a lot with nightgame so I can vibe better.
Was gonna go home, but the area by the apartment suddenly started gaining a lot of traffic at around 1:00am. So decided just to continue.
Girl kinda came up to me and tried to tell me something, so I was like lol okay easy screen. Started really getting physical with her within like 30 seconds and then went for a kiss really fast. We kissed for like 2 seconds but she pulled back like WTF????? I went for it again and she deflected. Decided in the spirit of embracing tension and learning how to disengage, that I pull away from her entirely. Waited a second and then took her hand like "let's dance". She danced with me for a bit and I twirled her as per standard, then went for the waist but she scurried off like a rodent.
Approached/screened some other girl somewhere else, instantly declined with boyfriend. Was kinda loud so I didn't feel like doing my "nervous guy game" strat, plus I was feeling pretty confident and aggressive so I ejected.
Then I walk out and this random short black British guy comes up to me, kinda plastered like "ay bruv dey not lettin me in" and im like "why not, you dont have an ID?" "ya i got an ID but dey not lettin me in cause of my accent bruv". I'm like, "thats fucking bullshit, come on lets go somewhere. get your ID out, point to your DOB, and shut the fuck up to the bouncer". So I dragged him with me somewhere and he followed. Bouncer was flirting with some girls and wasn't paying attention so the dude just walked in. I was trying to get my ID out like a good boy, but the bouncer was way too distracted so I just walked in too. Told him "lets get some girls bro" and we split off.
Saw some girls having way too much fun and they broke their hookah setup. One girl walked out of their booth and I approached/screened her like "having too much fun?" she was like "ya lolz" and brought me back to her booth, and pushed me on her friend. Friend was hotter than the girl I opened. We were dancing for a whole minute and twirled each other and was about to go for her waist, when this bigass dude shows up like "yo you gotta get outta here". I was like uh ok and stepped out of the booth when suddenly another guy comes up and pushes my ass out of the joint. Saw me off with a sassy "bye!". Tried to say "that wasnt my hookah", but it was whatever haha.
Why do I keep getting kicked out of places lmaooooo
As I was writing this, a guy and a girl in this unit started talking to me, and they were talking about music and how they know the scene here, and since I REALLY want to get into the EDM/rave scene, I exchanged contacts with them and they said to hit them up at some point. I'm actually considering leaving Nashville next month and moving here and I told them that so, in addition to my cold approach friends, I have these friends too. Somehow I already have a larger social circle in Austin within 3 days than I have in Chattanooga (1yr) + Nashville (3wks) combined??? Anyway this seems like the place I need to be and I have the freedom to do it.
